Dating and language

Dating someone from another country and language learning. When I first moved to Poland many girls wanted to meet me, usually for coffee. At first I thought this was the ‘Hollywood effect’ from beginning from the states. Foreigners are always interested in exotic people from other countries and they are treat a little bit like a movie star. I have seen, normal guys that are ex pats with girls that they would only be with if they looked like Brad Pitt in the States. The same applies to girls. But latter I realized girls wanted to meet me not because I was so charming, rather they wanted to meet me at a coffee shop once a week and talk politics and other current subjects. It was funny as after a while I realized they did not want to meet me outside the coffee shop.

It was basically free English conversation lessons, something which I got paid for normally. Once you know a little more of the language and get wise, its more of a level playing field. Eventually you will even lose a bit of your ‘Hollywood effect’ as you begin to dress and look a little more local.

If you meet someone that you could love than everything changes. It is a different set of dynamics and real language learning motivation. Eighty-nine percent of the time you will speak the guys, not the girl’s language in the relationship. Why this is true is for a lot of reasons. Mostly because English is easy and girls have a passion for language conversation. However, if you convey to your other that you want to learn the other persons language, it helps. Most guys I know wind up taking lesson in addition to the relationship and practice with their girlfriends what they learned during their language lessons. What eventually happens is you speak both languages mixed together.

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