What I know about Romanian women
If you understand how Romanian women think will give you will have a better chance in having a meaningful relationship and maybe love with her. My thesis about România will surprise you. This is not a post on how to pick up girls. In fact, that is the problem. Any such post about Romanian women or relationships and dating in general are lame. I think generalization and dating articles are many times by uninformed people writing for their blog.
Most Romanian girls at the University do not have a car, but maybe that is why they are in such good shape. There are advantages of not being rich and opulent, that is you have a nice body and learn moderation.
I do not pretend to be an expert on people from Romania and invite people from country to interject ideas if I am off base, however, from living in Eastern Europe a good part of my life. I am a dual EU American citizen that lives in Eastern Europe. I know a lot about Eastern Europeans as my family was and is Eastern European, even though I was raised in the USA. I have a reasonable perspective on Eastern European girls and feel I can convey useful information on what your normal Romanian girl is looking for in a relationship.
Romanian girl
Dispel the myths about Romanian females
A lot has been written about Romanians on the web both positive and negative. However, a lot of this is rooted in opinions rather than facts. Even people from Romania are partial and bias about their own society. They lose the objectivity, that a foreigner who studies the culture honestly might have. By the end of this post you will have information what other people do not take into account when they are trying to meet or chat with Romanian women.
- Romanian girls are not easy – They are normal girls who want to get married.
- Romanian girls are not looking for a sugar daddy – Just because a country is poor do not assume. I would say you have more chance of being taken to the cleaners by a western girls who files for divorce. You can read a little more about the economics of Romania below.
- Romanian women are not unintelligent – I think most girls I met have a University education, largely because of the legacy of communism providing education. This is in contrast to the UK and the USA which has about 11% of our students going to University. I have noticed Romanians tend to gravitate towards creative fields slightly more than the adjacent countries.
- Roma and Romanian are not synonymous - I can not tell you how many times people in Europe think Romanian are gypsies and this really irritates me. Not that there is anything wrong with Gypsies, but people need to learn some history. Nor Are Romanians Slavic, they are something else.
- Romanian is dark and grey post communist country – Some of the best rock climbing and beaches in Europe are in Romania and there is a lot more to it then the Dracula legends. Amazing countryside with natural food grown and down to earth friendly people.
Romanian women chating away on their cell phones. In Romania only people in the villages really use landline, everyone uses mobile phones. So get your right thumb in condition for texting SMS.
The key to understanding Romanian women
Romanians have three themes in their culture which has influenced the individuals living there.
1. Spiritual depth – The youth might rebel or talk about some country priest who says unenlightened things during the service, but at their center they are Orthodox.
2. Greatness in their historical past – Romania was a regional superpower for hundreds of years with a rich culture.
3. Economic hardship – What can I say, on one hand they are EU but on the other hand wages paid are not up to par with what the talent is worth in any major city in Eastern Europe. My message is try to be an entrepreneur with intellectual capital, but that is another subject.
If you want to skip this you can go directly to this section How to win a Romanian women
Spiritual side of Romanian women
Most Romanians do not use their faith to ‘show up’. They believe because they believe and feel that in this life, there is more than just material goods and hyper consumption. Their ideal prince is not only their champion in the traditional sense but has a real spiritual connection, their other half.
Someone they can have a church wedding with. Someone who will raise their children in the faith. Someone who when times are hard will unite in prayer with the. They are not looking for good times and stupid egotistical western guys. Romanian women are looking for real.
Greatness of the past and Romanian ladies
Romanians are the last remnants of the Great Roman empire. Even closer genetically then modern-day Italians. The Romanians are the last of the Ancient Romans. Further, Romania is a full EU country.
As an American and EU citizen I can vouch that the EU is a great place to live. Almost every EU citizen can work and live anywhere in Europe from Bucharest, Rumania to the UK. The country had a lot of interesting history and it has beautiful landscapes with some of the best rock climbing and beaches in Europe.
So if you think you are so cool and flash your cash at a Romanian girl and she will marry you, think again. Romanian girls are not shallow Western girls.
Economics of Romanian women
The past communist dictator of the country destroyed the economy of Romania. It was a poor country but is now raising from nothing. Romanian economy is quite good now, with textiles and IT leading the charge. I personally look to Romania to do business as the people there are bright and educated.
Romanian-working-girls
I will not deny that some Romanian girls have sold their bodies for money. These types of working girls is an issue in Romania like it is in Dubai, or Istanbul or China or NYC or London.
It is not a Romanian women’s problem but a human issue. Americans women do this also, in fact think of the ridiculous the number of congressman and ‘VIPs” in the US that are caught in this. I am not saying this type of work is right or wrong, just saying it is a reality. Since people look to examples instead of the rule, some foreigner will see a couple of Romanians at a club in Dubai and make the assumption this is the way it is in Romania. Wrong, it is not this way. Try taking a trip to Bucharest or any village you will not see this. I have seen girls from every country behave this way.
It is certainly wrong if you are married or the women are young, it is a sin. But some 24-year-old Romanian students, for example, might go to Istanbul, Turkey or Dubai UAE to because women lack the self-confidence that they can support themselves in other ways for their education, it is not something that is too wise but I understand it.
Romanian girls that are young are often naive and tempted into selling themselves into prostitution because of their economic situation. My take on this is if somewhere their ideals were lost, but with all people they can be restored. There is not much we can do about the past. But we can have redemption.
- I should not even write about this but I did because I want to dispel the idea that this is Romanian culture as a whole. It is not more than the culture is in the USA or anywhere else. Get it out of your brain.
Economics of Romania
Most professional people in Romania make less than 1,000 Euro a month, the average is much lower maybe 300 Euro a month. However, this has to be balanced with the fact things are very cheap. People will complain how pricey flats are etc, but compared to Boston or London, the whole country is a great place to live price wise. If you make 1,000 Euro a month you are doing great and can afford to fix up a flat that grandpa gave you and have a car and you might be 30 years old. In contrast in the USA we have huge, like 100,000 dollars connected with our educations. Even though we are paid more, we have different costs.
Further, if you are Romanian you can go to the UK work as an EU citizen and come back to the countryside and build a house, taking advantage of the purchasing power different. People build their homes with cash in Romania. If you are American you can not go work somewhere richer and pay cash for a hosue. Further, Westerners have many implicit economic needs, they have expectations about wealth and money. Whereas five Romania guys can go on a cheap flight to London, live in a small flat save money for five years and come back rich. I can not see a western doing that. It is called the Romanian advnatage.
Even I have this a little, I can live in the USA without a TV nor car and stash my money away. Most Americans are not so frugal and prefer credit. Look how Brits came to Romania bid up the prices of housing and now it is too high. This is the west.
So I did not mean to go on a tanget but I wanted to explain some basic things about how Romanian girls must exist, good and bad economically.
Beautiful Romanian women - in Gothic style
How to win the heart of a Romanian woman
Based on the above about the faith, history and economics of Romania I can help you chat and meet a Romanian woman. Here is how, look at some Romanian women pics. They are hot.
But the paradox is as follows. To win the heart of a Romanian women for love and for you to be your bride you have to be not rich, but wise. Not egotistical, but humble is more. Speak very calmly and softly about thing of their culture and language and history and literature. Talk about what you really believe life to be.
Keep it real and make your words match your ideas and courage, that is if you have any. Do not flash money or impress them with your Resume or nice car or other crude things, this will work with ‘new wave’ girls, but these are not the one you want. You want a beautiful dark, mysterious, humble Romanian women from the countryside with dreams and ideals.
Dream Eastern European princesses
Then together you can make the moon appear in the sky and the stars shine at night. Rich or poor, beautiful or ugly she will love you for who you are and you will live happily ever after. I have traveled the world and seen and experienced many things, good and bad and I know what I am talking about.
As a result of this purgatory I gained some insights for what it is worth. I am very happily married by the way and living a fairy-tale with my princess.
231 responses to How Romanian women think
Romanian girls from the country
I have grown in Romania in the north-east part of the country. You have to take in consideration also the region from which the girl is from. If you talk with a girl from south there are some few chances you might come across a gypsy or half gypsy. It is not always the case, but be car full, gypsies are very evil and perverse creatures.
In Romania there are two tips of women. The materialistic superficial ones, the good spiritual ones and those in between. You can spot them from a mile. You know them by the way they dress, act and talk.
Many Romanian women are educated and know english. They are bright and intelligent, sometimes even artistic. Feminism did not hit that hard on Romania as it did in Western countries, so chances are you might come across a women who want to marry and have kids. In my class, while I was in high school most girls were boy obsessed and wanted to have a bf. Most were looking for stable relationships and true love. YES, true love is a common concept among Romanian girls. Romanian girls are dreamy creatures.
I am an Eastern Women living in Western Europe with a Western man and everything seems perfect. I think if you really search, chances are you will find an amazing girl who has nothing to do with feminist Western girls.( not saying all Western girls are like that, but many are)
But REALLY, be careful, the gold is not on the surface, you need to dig deep. So there are nasty superficial pig Romanian creatures. I met MANY in Romania. It all comes down to personality and environment. But you can spot them, it does not make a rocket scientist, you see them by how they dress, act, talk,their tastes, if they are educated or not. Then you can see if they are trash or not.
I really encourage Western men to look for Romanian women, but that is to be very carefull as the new generations tent to be different from the previous. I think in every country you find the gold only after digging. And be careful not to marry a gypsy, it’s like signing to you are own death.
And yes, most Romanians believe in God, but that does not stop them from wanting a car or a better job. I think everyone wants to live good. However, they are not hollow inside, as they trust in a superior being and have values.
In the end it’s up to you.
How Romanian women think
Spot a Romanian girl from a mile
You said you can spot the type of girl on is from a mile, could you be more specific?
It can be more about the men
I enjoy reading your blog. I”m and American who is currently living and working in Jakarta, Indonesia. It’s been a wonderful experience discovering the culture here and it’s helped me understand that women are the same all over the world, they all want the same things. Here’s a few things that women have told me they want in a man, I have heard these over and over again in Asia and America. It’s no wonder that they want Western me.! Do you think the same is true about Romanian women?
A man with a job. Yes, it’s nice when your partner is working and there are few money problems.
A man who spend his money wisely. Of course is your man is spending all his money at the cock fights, your relationship and your life is going to be not good.
A man who does not hit her. Life is not optimal when you never know what will trigger his temper and give you a black eye or worse.
A man who doesn’t “have many ladies.” Who wants a partner that cheats on them?
A man who isn’t arrogant and will work with you as a team in life. Some men, especially in Islamic countries rule the roost and it’s not so fun.
A man who doesn’t drink too much. Usually this zaps the bank account and can also lead to violence.
So my point is, many women in many countries do not want the men of their own country because the men have too many of the above traits! Don’t get me wrong, men are mostly the same all over the world.I said mostly. Plus I am an arrogant American man, we are great.
I will like to visit Romania.
Romanian Women are to be avoided
I went to Satu Mare for a relationship (I found out later she was the daughter of the former Communist Party Secretary).
I left her and 5 months later rejected her again. She became vindictive and I had to leave for my own personal safety.
Romanian women are bunny boilers when rejacted on a scale that would make Glenn Close’s character look like Mother Theresa.
Satu Mare is a small city with a population of about 120,000. You upset one woman, you upset every woman in the city and it even spread into Baia Mare in the neighbouring county.
After communism, 20,000 men migrated out (or ran away from the women as fast as they could)
Avoid Romanian women at all costs.
I have no idea what you are talking about? What does her father being in the party have to do with you and her daughter? Why did you reject her? You are just rambling, I need more facts to discern why you are so bitter.
First her mother was the party secretary. My ex had a very priveledged childhood while evryone else was under Ceausescu and was the biggest prima donna on the planet
Her mother still had contacts including me being attacked and ending up with my face badly bruised apparently by ex Securitate.
All I did was end the relationship because she was like a control freak!
I went home for my own personal safety
David, do you have an email adress?
Unbelievable comment about Romanian women
It is unbelievable what I am reading here. Totally biased; so untrue! It reflects the general opinion of the people and it cannot be taken as facts. I am a Canadian-Romanian but raised and educated in Romania. Romanian women are the best and I am not saying this becuase I am a woman, but becuase I know how they are. In any country, there are weeds, but it is not hard to discern, flowers from weeds. Anyway, the Romanian women are very spiritual, very faithful to their men-would die for them.
I don’t have time to write more about it, but inform yourselves before you post any garbage out here. This is unmasticable garbage!And, if you consume such garbage (the biased inforamtion posted here), it tells me something about it.
Signed,
Pseudonym-Minodora
I agree with you Pseudonym Minorda, Romanian women are in my experience deep, kind, thoughtful people. If someone encounters one that is not, maybe they should quesion what type of people they are attracting in life in general.
The way I see Romania
I am a British person living in Romania. For the last year or so I moved out to Romania for bussiness and trust me I can tell you that Romanian women are unfaithful and definately they go after money. This is the truth and based on facts and experience. They are bunny boilers and would do all what it takes to keep a man, they would even pretend to be pregnant so you can stay with them. And if you have money then you are a lucky man and can pick up any girl you want, even if shes married with kids.
I did not want to even approve your comment, not for the content but there were so many grammar mistakes I thought it was written by someone who can not form an English sentence. I corrected them. Please write in English sentences with punctuation and capitalization next time.
Tell me more details. From time to time I get a comment like this from men, who visit every country from the UK or the USA or Romania. Basically I think guys who write this go for the wrong guys, meet women in pubs or clubs not in Church. I think guys who write this usually do not follow my advice and go for moral girls but find the lowest common denominator of women in any society or country and then extrapolate out.
What you write is not true. Give me the facts of were you met the girl and under what circumstance you met her in Romania.
I'm not the only one who think about Romanian girls
“JJ” and “Victim”
Hear, hear.
I don’t know about other Romanian girls but my girlfriend is Romanian and I can tell that she is really a nice person, though moody. She is a woman who values relationship and love. I will be marrying her in a few months and move to my home country (India) along with her.
I’m from The Netherlands and have had a Romanian gf from Iasi and I have never had any problem with her. what the guy above me is saying is true though:P They can be moody.but overall, Romanian women are nice. But what I hear all the time from Romanian girls I know (friends) is that the Romanian men abuse their girlfriends’s allot, and cheat a lot. So many Romanian women don’t trust men overall. But im glad to say, she was the best girlfriend I ever had, and the Romanian female friends I have are super nice too. (sorry if I have made some spelling errors, nobody’s perfect.)
Dating site?
Is there a dating site for expats in Romania who want to meet Romanian girls? I have a coleague expat and he asked me this question.
I was betrayed - but I like Romania still
I am living in Switzerland. Have been travelling for business a lot in eastern countries in the last 10 years. Russia, Ukrain, Poland, Belarus etc.
I had a relationship with a Russian lady who was living in Switzerland after my fiance died on Cancer 6 years ago. I broke up with the russian Girl after I felt that for her relationship is more a deal than a love relathionship.
Back in Single life I met a Romanian Girl in Switzerland. She was her to visit some Girlfriends.
After half a year visiting each other she moved in with me in Switzerland, we wanted to get married, Unfortunately I found out lately what all was about. Her 2 Girlfriends are working in Zürich as Prostitutes and to my big surprice I had to find out: My girlfriend was working as Prostitute before in Spain as well. the reason we broke up was that I found out she is having from her previous career as prostiute a suggar dady who was from time to time sending money to her.(of cours for some week end services)
When I found out I was for a while digging and found so many bad things – another boyfriend in Romania – the money I have given her for her mam to go to hospital in Romania was used for pleasure etc.
To make the storry short. I got some figuers of Zürich Red light destrict (Financial District) which is showing that close to 40 % of all Prostitutes are coming from Romania – manly from the Galati Region.
Looking at this figure It seems the poor standard of living in some regions and the very materialistic vision is supporting to enter into Prostitution. Just some figures: average income in Galati Region is about 300-500 Euro a Month for a Worker. Average income in Zürich as a Prostitute is 20000 Euro Net. This figures are talking its own language. Most of the Girls are supporting families with all means. Even I was cheated a lot and I have spoken about with a lot of Romanian women eversince I like Romanian women. But some Romanian women even told me: Dont ever consider, to take as a Western Man, a Romanian Women – The young generation of girls is materialistic oriented and this is not to combine with love to much.
I have my doughts but for sure some are.
How Romanian women think
Well let me tell you this guys I am from USA in I am going out with this beautiful woman from Romania in she is the best thing ever happened to me we been together for 3 months now in I love her so much we be together very soon I am happy.
Romanian women are quite nationalistic and support other Romanians.
They criticize the Western guys for being reckless spenders, arrogant etc. ,Western girls to be flashy ,feminist etc. Nevertheless they want to live and spend the rest of their life with a Western guy. Some of the articles (perhaps from genuine people) seems like a promotion of sponorship of Romanian ladies. I do have Romanians friends (girls included), and I see the same traits in them as well. Why is that?
Romanian girls - a negative experience from a single expat
I used to live for six years in Romania since my company has spread in almost every city of every eastern European country.
I have lived in Bucuresti, Iasi, Brasov, Timisoara, Cluj-Napoca, Sibiu and Targu Mures.
Thank God I now left that awful country that is still very behind and I am currently located in – Prague – Czech Republic – which is
200 years forward than Romania.
Things that disguisted me in Romania :
Romanian People’s poor limited sick mentality
For example, in Romania it doesn’t matter if you have a university diploma, you speak 5 foreign languages and your IQ is above 120
because since you find a wallet in the street and you hand it to the police you are considered “STUPID” by Romanians.
In Romania it doesn’t matter if your IQ is below 85 you don’t even know how to spell your name, you ignore essential things etc. because since you find a wallet in the street and you keep it for yourself you are considered intelligent by Romanians.
Negative energy anytime anywhere in Romania
Romania really surprised me with its mean, sad and permanently angry people who HATE anyone that looks happy.
Lack of Hygiene in most places in Romania
Romanians don’t care about being clean and tidy. You might go to a restaurant and see dead insects into your
Ciorba de burta (Romanian Soup), or dirty plates and glasses or a waiter that has filthy hands.
You might go to a 4 star hotel and see dirty sheets (not well washed) with marks on them, rough towels with a bad smell and
cockroaches making a parade in the bathroom. If That’s how a Romanian 4 star hotel is I don’t want to imagine
how an 1 or a 2 star Romanian hotel might be.
Almost all Romanians have halitosis
Romanians have always a bad breath that Stinks from distance. I think this is because they don’t have money to fix their bad teeth and they let them get rotten. They also let their stomach empty without eating anything at all for many hours and that combination makes their mouth terribly
stinky. The thing that made me furious is that they don’t realize how nasty their breath is and when they talk to you they come very close.
There were many times that i had to tell them :
“Stai mai departe de mine te rog nu vii asa de aproape”
“Please keep a distance don’t come so close to me”
During my first year in Romania, Cluj-Napoca i didn’t have a car so I had to move always with a taxi.
All the taxi drivers in Cluj Napoca had that halitosis so I always used to sit in the back seat and open wide the window.
Inferiority complexes in Eastern Europe
When you speak to a Romanian you realize within minutes that he/she’s full of inferiority complexes.
Of course they know how bad their country and culture is and they are always acting weird and funny sometimes.
I have seen adults over 35 years old acting like teens 12-13 years old. They obviously haven’t worked on their personality development.
Romanians blame the Roma(Gypsies) but they are actually same as them in most things
In Romania you will often see people blaming the Gypsies but the funny thing is that these people dress the same as Gypsies, act exactly like Gypsies (yell in public places, spit down on the floor, beat each other, try to steal your money even in the stores or receptions etc), Smell the same as Gypsies smell (you don’t want to get close to any Romanian when sweaty believe me), Listen to the same music that the Gypsies listen – manele – is a gypsies Romanian type of music that they play in every social event (weddings, birthday parties etc) !
Romanian Girls/Women are extremely insecure
All the men I used to know in Romania had the same problem. They had to answer every five minutes to their wives’ phone calls which they were always asking the same things.
“Unde Esti ? Ce Faci Acum ? Cu Cine Esti ?”
“Where Are You ? What Are You Doing Right Now ? Who With ?”
Romanian Females have all the complexes of the world.
I have seen girls in Romania hiding their mouths with their hands when smiling or laughing just to hide their teeth.
Romanian Females want your attention Anywhere, anytime. When I was walking in Romanian Streets (full of holes), in Romanian
Malls (very poor compared to the German ones), in the Super Markets, in squares, in parks etc. I used to see Romanian Girls Looking at Me all the time. They were expecting from me to look back at them
So desperately and they were really angry if I haven’t given them a glance. Some used to hurry and try to walk in front of me or the ones who were with a friend (another girl) were trying to force a fake (nervous) laugh come out just to get some of my attention. But I knew about their insecurities and complexes and made them suffer more than they used to. I was totally ignoring them. It is that simple.
Targu Mures was the best place in Romania
If there was a place in Romania that I could say it was less bad than the rest of this garbage 3rd world undeveloped Gypsy country
that was Targu Mures. And this is because 50% of the population over there is Hungarian and they had a level closer to the
Western European Standards. Hungarian Girls/Women apart from being way taller and sexier than Romanian girls/Women, they also had a way better mentality, personality and Hygiene. Hungarian females didn’t smell. I keep the good memories from Targu Mures Thanks to Hungarian Women
and to Hungarian people in general.
I never liked Hungary or Hungarians in general to be honest but compared to Romanians (Gypsies) after 6 years Hungarians seemed to
me really wonderful. But not anymore. Right Now I am Lucky To Be In Prague – CZ – which is 1.000 times better than Gypsy-Romania and 100 times better
than Hungary.
How Romanian women think
I disagree. What you write is not true and hurtful to people because it is not true. Where are you from? You judge people so hard, for being negative for example, yet you are negative and cynical yourself and come into a place with a bit of arrogance like everything should look like jolly old London (ironic). Where are you from?
First explain to me how Romanians are behind Czech republic for example? Is your yardstick money? Is money and material wealth your god?
The Czech republic sits on top of Germany, a Germany that did not pay for the war and a west that left countries like Romania and Poland to the Soviets. Further, even if Prague is more advanced than parts of Romania, what is your measure? GDP pumped by credit and now we have a West build on fake money?
What about morality? What about divorce and family? I think Prague is a divorce capital and the massage trade is everywhere there.
Romanian women I would trust more in marriage, that is just me, because I think they are more devout and loyal. Czech is a feminised place. If you want to marry a feminist girl, do it, please. You will regret it. I mean are you married? If not why?
I do appreciate your contribution in terms of experience but I disagree and would like to hear more on your measures of goodness and virtue.
Romania the beautiful
well written blog, I have lived in europe myself, for many years, and my wife is Romanian, when she red this she laughed.. however 99% is accurate.. yes. Romania is a rich culture, and you really have to understand this, and grab a history book, much of Romania is untouched, and very historic. Money is not everything, and if you can grasp this idea.. you will do well. We live in a village 6 months out of the year not far from brasov, anyway. We do not have internet, we have a land line, we go to the butcher, the baker and the candle stick maker. We grow a lot of our own veggies, we eat a lot of soup, we make butter, and even have a few laying hens, our house is 700 sq ft, we drive a 20-year-old daci, but the bicycle is more reliable, but we are happy. We live on less than 500 euro per month, and bank the rest of my retirement, for the most part, if you want a handmade wool sweater, and you buy it in Ireland. It will be well over 200 bucks.. get the same or better quality in the village for about 20, and is really hand-made, and you can probably meet the sheep if you want. means a lot this basic way of living.
Christopher
Christopher, what you’ve described sounds close to heaven to me.
Romania and her people
To counter some of the negative comments above, I think I can speak with authority. I have now been to Romania on five occasions since 1989 and all I can say is that the Romanian people are some of the most friendly people I have ever met and Romanian women are among some of the most beautiful I have ever seen in europe. I return to Romania in 2 weeks and cannot wait.
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