Why American girls are not for marriage in most cases? I guess people people reading this might say I am stating the obvious . This might be true, but my question still is why? Why what? If this is true and obvious then why do so few American guys see this? Why do our guys marry an American girl?
Basically Americans have been programmed. Yet on the other hand, I have no idea and invite people to reply to this post as I am trying to make sense of it all. Here are some of my theories on why girls from the USA, Canada and the UK become brides.
Why our guys marry the American girl
American girls use guilt to get married
American guy: Maybe American guys get married a little out of guilt, they have been dating a girl for a while and feel its the least they could do for her. They know her family and years have gone by and they feel some obligation.
My answer: You have only one life. I believe in God, but here on this earth you have one chance. Life is so sweet because we will never be here again. Live your life. Go for the hot young chick you want. A few of my American guy friends have all kinds esteem problems and escape from their problems in work, because they are with some fat women and aggressive. Further these girls are often the same age as them. Man where is your courage? I would rather be poor married to a hot young model than rich married to some obese women who does battle three nights out of seven with me.
No princesses to marry in the world except in fairy-tales
American guy thinking: They feel it is not possible to marry a model looking girl that will be their princess and will see you as their hero.
My answer: This knight in shining armor is a the proper male female dynamic that exists outside the USA. Girls want a prince to rescue them. Women want a man to serve and obey. Does this shock you? That is because you have been programmed. Even I have to fight my American culture programming.
Foreign brides marry for money
American guy thinking: I will marry a foreign girl and she will take you money.
My reply: Foreign bride marry for love. In fact, if you have an online honey, that is a say, a Russian girl who you think is trying to scam you, well hold onto your hat, I have news for you, most likely you have been chatting with a dude. Real life Russian girls are very nice.
And American women? Rather than marry an American girl, why not just find a girl you despises and give her your house and half you money and save your self all the hassles.
Why get married? Do not.
I am very against the idea of marriage unless it is your fantasy come true. Unless you have found your other half. Unless you do , forget it, and enjoy your life as a man.
Unless a girl will submit her ego and serve you as her prince, do not get married. Of course will summit your pride and fight for her and rescue her and serve her also because she is your princess.
American girls see service to their master as good, but to their husbands as bad
Most American girls work harder to serve their boss (their master who they serve most with all their energy and time) than their husbands.
I often ask girls that are argumentative aggressive types if they talk to their boss (that is their master who they serve) at work like that? They treat their boss (their master who they humble themselves to and basically kiss his feet) with more respect than their husbands or boyfriends.
Again, do not even think of getting married, unless you find your princess.
Marry a princess
You can find a good bride
That being said I am a family guy. I am very pro family and not a feminist. I ultimately am a romantic. I feel that in love it is two people and the rest of the world. All or nothing.
Why marry an American girl? Why not marry a beautiful young foreign bride?
American girls do not want to submit and my reply to them is ‘have a good life’. For American guys I say why not marry a model. Marry a model who has a PhD and will cook and clean and see you as a hero. This is the CIS, this is Europe, this is Asia, this is Africa, this is South America.
I guess ultimately American guys feel they must settle for something in their heart they know is messed up?
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9 responses to Why marry an American girl?
Admin,
I agree with you on the age issue. Most failed marriages are because the age between the man and womn are TOO CLOSE. Best is a difference from 5-15 years where he man is older as long as he is in decent physical (shape (not fat a dirty slob)
and stable financially.
Any man that is in decent shape mentally and physically and stable financially, deserves a super hot young woman. It’s just a fact.
Bravo, if a girls older than you or the same age she will try to rule over you. She will try to dominate you. No one will be happy. She will age faster ( skin wise it is about 10 years) and at 50 you could be looking like George Clooney and she will look like …
Its best is the man is about ten years older. Everyone is happy. I laugh when American women are looking for younger guys on match.com and other dating sites. Good luck with all that.
Hear, hear.
It’s not the bossy issue as much as you can’t do much. Any woman no matter the age can be bossy.
Now I had my share of cougars when I was a teen, but fact is once a guy gets older, he doesn’t want to be with a woman that will get all wrinkly. Even a woman two years younger than me I would not want for the long run because as time goes, she will start looking very wrinkly.
Excellent article admin.. By the way, I never did get your name..
Why marry an American girl? She is 99 years old, has a heart condition, has $10,000,000 in the bank and has agreed to put you on her will.
AH ok, well unless that is your situation, or unless you just love being abused, attacked and ridiculed by some ungrateful, gold-digging, dominating witch who will unleash all of her anguish on you, then I would not marry an AMerican girl.
I really am hoping those Eastern European girls are all you say. Seeing, that I never been there, its all speculation, but I am very eager to give it a try.
RIght now work is hard, I am working 13-15 hours a day, cooking, cleaning and doinng chores. American women are slobs, I am amazed at how much cleaner my house is than the average American woman. Its hard to get an American woman to do anything productive for you, I have to bring home the bread and bake it too. LOL
The girls here in Eastern Europe are those that give me suggestion for this blog, so I am telling it like it is. In America if you are a man, you have to work like crazy, do the cooking, cleaning and put up with a girl who dreams about ‘girls night out’.
Sounds great Admin.. I wish I could have your setup, where I can live overseas and still make a living. I have the potential but it will take some time; no guarantees I can pull it off.
Admin, where do you think the best place for me to start my search? In a year or two when I have some breathing room from my job, I have a goal of escaping USA and heading east. Since, I live in a cold, cloudy rainy place, I was kind of thinking of Sardinia or SIcily Italy for the scenery and better weather. Although I know Italian women are much more westernized.
Many times I have considered celibacy, because of the bad situation here. I seem to be more happy and live a more productive life not worrying about women. Its hard pleasing the unpleasable American woman, who believes the solar system revolves around her, rather than her being just a small part of it.
I am a Messianic Jew and I have to take into consideration, Eastern Europe can pose some problems, due to ethnic issues. Being Messianic, I can adapt well with Christians and have much in common. Actually, one reason I didn’t marry a traditional orthodox Jewish woman, is because of my Messianic beliefs. It would have been very easy for me to find a very traditional kind of lady, but due to doctrinal differences, I am not accepted into the Orthodoxy. Nobody will bless my marriage and no father will give me his daughter.
I feel I would be happier with a Christian woman and we would have more in common , although there is differences. I guess the one fear I have is being in place like Ukraine, Poland or Russia, I fear a bit of my security, due to my ethnicity. I know Romania is much more neutral in this regard and doesn’t have any longstanding animosity against my ethnicity. Italy is another option, as I know I’d probably be more welcomed there as well.
I guess to be blunt, I don’t know what some Russian, Ukrainan or even Polish (gasp) father would think of his daughter marrying a Jewish man. Even though I believe in Christ, I have differences from Orthodox or Catholic believer in Eastern Europe. We do have similarities, but doctrinal differences as well. I am more a Hebraic Christian, you can say. I would hate to have a marriage where the family would hate me, because of this issue. Would you say most of these people are accepting, regardless of your ethnicity, or even religion?
As I said, I am rather Russian looking and most my family comes from Eastern bloc. However, some of them don’t consider me their own.
Sorry, I know I am getting bit personal, but you seem like a genuine and good indivdual and I would appreciate your advice.
Seeing that you know some of my background, what place do you think would be best for me? My grandmother told me scary stories about how Poles treated her, but I know that was 70 years ago. If I am going wife hunting, perhaps the young girls don’t care so much about all this political and ethnic nonsense?
You will always find some freak somewhere that has prejudices, but most people today in Europe are not like that, including Poland. There are people like that yes. However, with the new generation that is the exception not the norm. Ukraine is not bad in this regard and Russia is a mix. But it is only an issue if you make it and issue.
I have found in Krakow people are really into Jewish studies and major in this. It is very well respected here. People are really into it in a good way.
You can always teach English where ever you go.
One issue is the visa thing.
Marriage is about you and the other person not the family. You have to have to courage of your convictions. I do not care what my family or my wife’s family thinks, it is more important about us.
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